Growing Big: When Health and Self Esteem Collide

When I was growing up, I was big. I'm not sure where exactly I fell in relation to other kids my age, because I rarely went to the doctor. That's what happens when you don't play sports and move every couple years, and thus don't have a good relationship with a doctor. But, I was definitely bigger than most kids. And I got teased for it. Throughout high school, I wore a giant, baggy jacket, because I was so ashamed about my body. As a sophomore in high school, I was asked by another student if I was pregnant. One of my friends desperately wanted me to go to the homecoming dance as a freshman so that I could have a Cinderella moment.

Point being, I know what it's like to have a low self-esteem.

But, as a doctor, I also know the harms of childhood obesity. I've talked about it before. So, I want young girls to get healthy and be at a healthy weight.

Problem is, weight is a very sensitive subject for adolescent girls. I saw a girl in clinic who completely shut down on me, to the point where we got a social worker to come talk to her, because I mentioned she was heavier than was healthy. It's not an easy subject to discuss, and I hate bringing it up, but I do it because it's in their best interest.

Well, a recent study has come out that may affect how I bring up the topic. This study took a group of girls and asked if someone had ever called them 'too fat'. They specifically asked about family members, teachers, and peers. Girls who were labeled as such at age 10 were significantly more likely to be obese at age 19 than those who were not, independent of what weight they started at.

Makes you wonder about all that media that girls consume now, doesn't it? How they are comparing themselves to the size 0 models in magazines, or worse, real women who are photoshopped to be unrealistic in proportions. Or how Ursula and the Queen of Hearts underwent a makeover to make them skinnier.

Yes, obesity is a problem.

But you know what? I was at my healthiest weight when I felt great about myself. It took me a long time to get there--years of affirmation by someone I loved. But I became happier with myself, accepting of myself, and started to walk around with confidence. And those extra pounds melted off.

So maybe the focus should be on body image, and not weight. After all, there is also such a thing as being too skinny.